Work on your goals so you can build a lifestyle you do not need a vacation from.
It’s OK to live for the weekend occasionally, but it can be a RED FLAG when it is constantly.
As we start the New Year, many of us have made resolutions to make changes in our lives. Work-Life balance is always a worthy pursuit that has many benefits, but have you ever done something you liked so well or were so passionate about that you could not put it down or stop doing it? This happens to many of us all the time. I am so passionate about helping others THRIVE that it never seems to leave my mind. You probably have a sense of something like this as well. Years ago, I read, learn to do something you like and will stick with and if you become the best at it, the money will take care of itself. This ethos would certainly put you on the path of a self-fulfilling life.
I am so passionate about helping others THRIVE that it never seems to leave my mind.
But what happens when we work without balance in our lives. We may push ourselves to burnout and fatigue. We could lose our desire to be creative and passionate. Then, we would seem to get in a rut. Work then becomes routine. Earning a paycheck for the next weekend outing or vacation only to be back at work in a short time seems like the only viable solution. It is a vicious cycle that does not sound very appetizing. Sometimes, it can even become an economic burden.
How do you avoid falling into this unhappy place?
How do you avoid falling into this unhappy place? Might I suggest trying a few things. One, create a journal of the ideas, goals, and desires that you would like to accomplish or create in your life. Let yourself brainstorm here. Everything is obtainable at this time. Remember, life is a long game not a short-term pursuit.
Remember, life is a long game not a short-term pursuit.
Next, take time to learn more about your goals or dreams. Do you want to paint, write, sing, or speak a new language? You may want to pursue advancement in your current career or start a new one. You may even want to succeed in your career AND pursue a hobby, craft, passion on the side. Chart a path to reach your goal based on what you have learned. Write it down. It will be more memorable that way. I have always found value in seeking out guidance from those who have traveled the path before me. They have much to offer and can help you avoid the pitfalls. It also helps you to build your network.
I have always found value in seeking out guidance from those who have traveled the path before me.
Then, reframe your thoughts into positive affirmations and remove self-doubt. Since you have never traveled this path before, how do you know you will not succeed. Only you will know if you have reached your destination. Define your success into small private victories. Passing a class, mastering a skill, and gaining strength and courage should all be celebrated.
Define your success into small private victories.
Lastly, give yourself some grace. Understand that there are many paths to victory and just because you may not have succeeded on some routes, other routes will get you what you seek to obtain. In teaching, coaching and guiding others, I have always spoke about a “two or three way go”. This means in the current situation, use alternative means to successfully reach your goals.
My hope for all of you is that with your life you will maintain a healthy balance of work, fun and rest. That you will find pursuits that will keep you from dreading Mondays. That you will find fulfillment in the goals that you set and achieve.
I know that by making these changes in your life, perhaps you will find the happiness and purpose you seek and ultimately, THRIVE.